How often do you feel impatient when people simply won’t stop dragging things long that ought to be done a year ago?
Aargh! It grinds my gears like nothing else and wakes up that little authoritarian in me.
Sometimes, we want things to change for the better so badly that we get impatient when people refuse to get on board with our rational and well-thought-out ideas.
It’s easy to forget that everyone else also has their own version of the ideal reality, just like us.
And just like us, they’re just as eager to get what they desire and avoid what they don’t.
It’s not vindictive. It’s the fear of the unknown.
“It is difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends on his not understanding it.”Upton Sinclair
It’s laborious to get people to see through our perspective. Just as laborious as it is to make them do and behave exactly as we want through ‘seagulling’ or something else equally ridiculous.
No matter who you are, you’re going to feel a little scared you’re unsure of the results.
As a leader, you can demand certain behaviours and encourage others through incentives. And most of us take that route.
But results falter as the incentives run out.
Then there are those of us who put more value in the process of building something than in the joy of having it done for them.
They remain open-minded to understanding the actions that produce both desirable and undesirable outcomes. They’re clear in their communication about what they want, and they pay close attention to tools that help them empower others.
They focus on solving the problems that matter and use empathy to make sure that people around them believe that they matter.
You can be the leaders who encourage others to take risks, discover new opportunities and celebrate creativity.
Or you can let your inner authoritarian let loose, become indifferent or take the more collaborative route. The chances are that it’ll take the same amount of time and effort.
You’ll probably get the job done either way, but you’ll get there with a much stronger and more eager team than you started with if you took the former path.